“We all have our own life to pursue, our own kind of dream to be weaving, and we all have the power to make wishes come true, as long as we keep believing.” ~Louisa May Alcott
The teacher then continued on with the very complicated instructions and then dismissed the kids and sent them back to their tables to try to duplicate what she just did. Jay sat there on the floor frozen in fear.I pulled him up to his feet and lead him to a table in the back of the room. I knew something else was up. As soon as we sat down, Jay began to cry, “I forgot to do my study guide, I didn’t have you sign my agenda and now this?”
I looked him in the eye and said, “Jay… first off breathe! Look at me. We all forget things. It’s okay. It’s part of being human. You got to let that go. You made a mistake and now we move on. And as far as this weaving thing goes… heck I am overwhelmed by it to. But we can try to figure it out together. That is all I ever ask of you Jay… that you try.” My son smiled at me and then said, “Coiling!” I looked at him confused so he continued. “It’s coiling a basket mom, not weaving!” And we were back!
As I helped my boy loop and COIL and stitch and turn it donned on me how much our life is like this. When coiling a basket, you constantly have to pull it together , keep it tight, or else the foundation will have a hole and well everything will fall out of your basket. That is what we do. I constantly am turning and readjusting and doing whatever I need to do to keep it tight so nothing falls through the holes in the middle.
I wish the teachers could see how hard my boy works to keep his basket together. I wish they could understand that when Jay is overwhelmed, something as simple as walking from point A to point B is too much. And I really wish they could applaud his creative way of getting from point A to point B and the fact that even got there!
Thumbs up sign baby! I see you and I am so proud of you!
3 thoughts on “Weaving and Wishes”
this is you best article yet and a lesson for everyone! Why are you not a special needs teacher!
OH I soooooooo get it. And at least teacher asked for help!! That is a first step to better things!
Good job, Jay. So proud of you for trying! I know it’s hard. When I was in school, A LOT of the time I just wanted to go home. Home, even though it was a disaster of it’s own, was a lot easier to navigate than school. Trying to remember everything and figure out what I had to do on some project was extremely difficult for me to deal with and I just wanted to forget about it all and go home.
Big hugs, honey. You’re doing great. Remember to breathe through it when something gets too hard or feels like too much. Mom will always be there to help you.
Your friend & fellow aspie,
Carrie 🙂