Last night I laid in bed and watched the President tell the world how “Justice has been done!” I watched as hundreds of people gathered in front of the White House. It was a scene of pure joy, a celebration of patriotism. As I watched them waiving their flags and raising their voices in an impromptu sing-a-long of “America the Beautiful”, I could not help but feel an ominous sense of doom. The same sense of dread and worry that I feel whenever Jay has to many good days in a row. That feeling that something bad is right around the corner. I shared this feeling with my husband who basically said, “Of course their will be fallout but no sense being a Negative Nelly!”
My hubby is right. I am a Negative Nelly lately. I’m not sure when it happened but it did. Whatever happened to this whole Happiness Project I set out on 2 months ago? What happened to me making time to see the mountains outside my office window? What happened to me deciding to look at the world as if it is a glass half full instead of half empty? Where did that Sharon go?
I read a really good book the other day. I know I say that about a lot of books but this one was funny and light and a very quick read. It was written by the gentleman who writes one of the Blogs I read often. It’s called, “Big Daddy’s Tales From the Lighter Side of Raising a Kid With Autism” by F. Lewis Stark (AKA Big Daddy Autism). You can Click on his image below and visit his blog and even order his book. I highly recommend both.
I bring up this book now because not only did it give me a much-needed laugh, it also offered some practical advice that could apply to everyone. I Know Big Daddy would kill me for giving away too much of his book, I mean the guy is shamelessly hawking his book… he has even made pretend cartoons of himself dreaming of being interviewed by Holly Robinson Peete when everyone knows the only thing Big Daddy really dreams about is eating pizza and Twinkies (that was taken directly from Big Daddy… just a little sample of his humor) but I do want to share something that stuck with me, especially with my whole Negative Nelly realization. Thrown in somewhere between all the entertaining stories of his son Griffin, Big Daddy offers a list, A List of things he has learned on his journey. It is Number 6 that this Negative Nelly is thinking about. “Embrace optimism. Optimism and pessimism are contagious. I would rather spread hopefulness and brightness to my kids any day of the week.”
Could my pessimism about something bad looming around the corner be what causes something bad to actually happen? Kind of a scary thought. I don’t have control over how Jay acts, or anyone else for that matter. But I do have control over how I choose to react. So this Negative Nelly is choosing to go back to her Happiness Project. Today at 4pm I will stop whatever I am doing and just sit and look out my window at the mountains. I will appreciate being able to do that too. And while I am being grateful, I will remember all the other blessings in my life. Instead of concentrating on how things could be better… I will accept things for what they are now. Basically I will embrace optimism! Thanks Big Daddy!