As I was putting the birthday boy to bed last night, he looked at me and said, “Okay mom… I ‘m 10 now, so are you finally going to tell me where babies come from? The REAL story mom.” I tried to laugh it off but he was serious. For about a month I have been dodging this question. I am no prude, but talking to my children about the “S” word was something I was just not prepared to do yet. Naively, I thought I would have at least another year or two before going there. I have never really talked to my other mommy friends about this. At what age are you suppose to have this dialog and was my son emotionally ready for it? All these thoughts and more were running through my head, as well as the thought… “Where is my husband?” Then I remembered how I had just done a post about wanting to live in the moment, and well having this type of talk would definitely be in the moment. Besides, I want him to know that he can talk to me about anything. I want him to not be afraid of his body. I also want him to hear things from me first and not from someone else. But what was I suppose to tell him? How much is too much? Not having the answers to these questions, I did what any other mother would have done… I winged it! In hind sight… this was one conversation I should have perhaps done a little prep work for. But all in all… I think it went fairly well.
So here is how it went.
ME- “Jay do you really want to know this? Are kids at school talking about it? What do you already know.”
JAY- “I know they don’t really come from the stork. I know the baby grows in the mommy’s belly. But how does it get there?”
ME- “Well the daddy plants a seed in the mommy’s belly.”(Jay gives me a confused look making me realize I need to explain quickly because my very literal son is imaging a tree growing.) “Okay you know the difference between men and women right? Men have a penis and women have a vagina. Well the two are shaped very differently. God made it that way on purpose so that the two can fit together perfectly. (Another confused look making me realize I needed a visual for him to get it. So I shaped one hand into a circle and pointed my index finger on the other hand.)
JAY- “Oh I get it. Like a ring on a finger!”
ME- “Exactly. And when the mommy and daddy fit together, the man’s seed goes into the mommy. The seed meets up with an egg which is already in the mommy and that is how a baby is made. The baby will grow from that egg. It takes 9 months and then the baby is ready to be born.”
(At this point my son has buried his head underneath his pillow.)
ME- “I know it sounds kind of gross right? What are you thinking? You okay?”
JAY- “I am thinking that if Gracie asks you this question you should just keep with the stork version! Can we pretend we never had this discussion now?”
ME- (Trying not to laugh) “What conversation?”