A TREE Style of Parenting?

An article appeared in my Facebook feed the other morning about a new popular style of parenting which is now being known as Submarine parenting. What I want to know is when did parenting become a battle and referred to in military items and terms…Helicopter, authoritarian and now submarine? I don’t know about you, but personally I do not want to battle my kids; I want to nurture them. Parenting is hard enough without putting these ideas of US against THEM into everyone’s heads. Especially our kids heads. I want them to feel like I am with them… not against them. This whole idea about referring to our parenting in styles is new to me. I always have thought as parenting as a type not a style. In  my The […]

My 10 and a half Principles to Leading a Happy and Successful Life!

I’m a jumper! No not a jump out of airplanes, off bridges or on a trampoline kind of gal; more of a I have so much passion about something I jump in full throttle and sometimes don’t realize the water is full of sharks until I am already in!This past week I JUMPED… and for a bit the water was great and then… cue JAWS music! And so yet again another life lesson was learned.I decided I really needed to write these down as a reminder to myself, my kids and well… maybe just maybe they will help you! So without further ado, I give you ten and a half (cause the last one is more of a mantra) principles I have learned (and hopefully […]

Excited to be part of a FREE VIRTUAL Parenting Event and you can be a part too… and um once again it’s FREE!!!

Let me start off by saying I am not selling you anything…just the opposite I am GIVING you something for FREE!!! And before you shake your head and say like I need more parenting advice like I need a hole in the head… read on cause this virtual event is going to be way cool and um… its virtual so you can participate while the kids are at school, napping, playing Xbox whatever and you can even be in your PJs and no one will care cause they won’t see you. (I told you it was COOL!) So the other day I got this email from Sabrina  Marasovich, the host of this free online event which is called: Practical Parenting Help: Discover Solutions and Strategies […]

The More I Learn the Less I Know; and that’s ok!

The older I get, the more experienced, learned, aged to perfection whatever you want to call it… the more aware I become of just how little I really know. It is humbling really. Seriously I write, I speak to folks all over the place, I think I have it all figured out and then wham, bam, slam…I realize I don’t know as much as I think I do. And you know what… that’s okay. It is more than okay because it keeps me moving forward, searching, asking my own questions whose answers once found I can come here and share with you. It is one of those answers I am excited to share with you today. And it came directly out of an experts mouth… […]

Free Chapter of my New book The Don’t Freak Out Guide to Parenting Kids with Asperger’s Syndrome

There is a very good reason why I have not blogged consistently lately. I have been busy writing my book! I am so happy with the way it is coming out and cannot wait for it to be done, edited and finally released. As of now we are thinking that release should be around August 2013. I have shared the introduction and first chapter with some folks already and here is what one said… I loved it! I’ll admit the introduction alone made me cry. Sometimes just knowing someone out there totally gets our situation is just awesome. And I love the tip about thinking how you react. For me physically i get this metal taste in my mouth and I know I’m about to […]

Why the phrase “PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT” is now banned in our house!

I don’t know why it has taken me so long to figure this out, idioms have always been something that have given my boy trouble in the past. When he was little I once found him sitting in the closet crying because he thought he had really injured me because I told him “He cracked me up”.  So why then, why did it never don on me that using the stupid phrase Practice makes perfect would mean so much more to my boy than to others? This stupid cliché that has some how become the parent go to has created havoc in my boy. Your child will come to you saying they don’t want to play the piano because they keep making mistakes and what […]

What I was Going To Tell YOU…

It has been so long since I have posted and so many things have been going on that I am almost too overwhelmed to do this. I guess this is my editors note to you all. My warning so to speak that this post will be filled with lots of run on sentences and will skip around and will most likely be very long. So pour a cup of coffee and sit down and stay with me here if you dare. Glad to see that I did not scare some of you away! LOL Anyway I was already to start telling you about meeting with Jay’s principle and how awesome he is and how I left the room almost dancing but didn’t dare because well […]

Why We Walk For Autism Speaks and Our Encounter With a Protester!

NOTE: The following was posted last October after we completed the Autism Speaks Walk. It is that time of year again and we are forming our team to do it again. I often feel a bit guilty telling folks that we are walking for Autism Speaks because part of me does not care for the way they do things. But I believe they are changing. The Autism Speaks VOTE video is incredible and actually features many Autistic individuals in it! I think they heard us and they get it. Either way we do the walk because JAY wants to do it! I have so many new readers since last year, so I thought I would repost this so you can see why we walk and […]

My head hurts from beating myself up over the way I handled a situation…

I am my own worst critic. I judge myself the harshest. This is what I tell myself… but I am thinking that might not be true. I may be my daughter’s worst critic and judge her the harshest and I am so ashamed to admit this. There was an incident this morning. A fashion crisis that was so stupid and over the top and well I did not do anything to help the situation. I escalated it with I TOLD YOU SOs and should have’s and shouldn’t halves. I raised my voice and spoke too sternly. I cared too much about what other people would think instead of my own daughter! And I have been beating myself up about it all morning and quite honestly […]

Boxers vs Briefs

  I happened to pass by my boy’s room while he was getting dressed this morning and noticed that he was wearing boxer briefs instead of his usual tighty whities. So of course I asked him about it. His response was, “MOM… for now on I will wear boxer briefs on A days (which is the day he has PE) and my regular comfy tighty whities on B days.” He must have noticed my puzzled look because he sighed and continued on saying, “Mom I happened to notice that the other boys were wearing boxers and well… you know!” Okay folks there are just too many things about this that are awesome but I cannot go into them right now because I need to run […]