A TREE Style of Parenting?

An article appeared in my Facebook feed the other morning about a new popular style of parenting which is now being known as Submarine parenting. What I want to know is when did parenting become a battle and referred to in military items and terms…Helicopter, authoritarian and now submarine? I don’t know about you, but personally I do not want to battle my kids; I want to nurture them. Parenting is hard enough without putting these ideas of US against THEM into everyone’s heads. Especially our kids heads. I want them to feel like I am with them… not against them. This whole idea about referring to our parenting in styles is new to me. I always have thought as parenting as a type not a style. In  my The […]

Free Chapter of my New book The Don’t Freak Out Guide to Parenting Kids with Asperger’s Syndrome

There is a very good reason why I have not blogged consistently lately. I have been busy writing my book! I am so happy with the way it is coming out and cannot wait for it to be done, edited and finally released. As of now we are thinking that release should be around August 2013. I have shared the introduction and first chapter with some folks already and here is what one said… I loved it! I’ll admit the introduction alone made me cry. Sometimes just knowing someone out there totally gets our situation is just awesome. And I love the tip about thinking how you react. For me physically i get this metal taste in my mouth and I know I’m about to […]

The Lean Mean Rice Eating Clean Machine or… How the BISSELL Perfect Sweep Turbo saved my dog from having to join Weight Watchers

Every week I get at least one email asking if I would like to review a product or book. Most of the time I decline politely. My thinking is that if the product is not really something you all would or could perhaps benefit from learning about, why bother. I was about to do my standard “Thank You But No Thank You” reply to the request to try out BISSELL’s Perfect Sweep Turbo but then I saw how it is supposed to be good for picking up dog hair and that it is QUIET. QUIET… do you see why this caught my attention? Let me explain. Grace has asthma and allergies. We just found out that one of the things she is allergic to is […]

Why the phrase “PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT” is now banned in our house!

I don’t know why it has taken me so long to figure this out, idioms have always been something that have given my boy trouble in the past. When he was little I once found him sitting in the closet crying because he thought he had really injured me because I told him “He cracked me up”.  So why then, why did it never don on me that using the stupid phrase Practice makes perfect would mean so much more to my boy than to others? This stupid cliché that has some how become the parent go to has created havoc in my boy. Your child will come to you saying they don’t want to play the piano because they keep making mistakes and what […]

What I was Going To Tell YOU…

It has been so long since I have posted and so many things have been going on that I am almost too overwhelmed to do this. I guess this is my editors note to you all. My warning so to speak that this post will be filled with lots of run on sentences and will skip around and will most likely be very long. So pour a cup of coffee and sit down and stay with me here if you dare. Glad to see that I did not scare some of you away! LOL Anyway I was already to start telling you about meeting with Jay’s principle and how awesome he is and how I left the room almost dancing but didn’t dare because well […]

My head hurts from beating myself up over the way I handled a situation…

I am my own worst critic. I judge myself the harshest. This is what I tell myself… but I am thinking that might not be true. I may be my daughter’s worst critic and judge her the harshest and I am so ashamed to admit this. There was an incident this morning. A fashion crisis that was so stupid and over the top and well I did not do anything to help the situation. I escalated it with I TOLD YOU SOs and should have’s and shouldn’t halves. I raised my voice and spoke too sternly. I cared too much about what other people would think instead of my own daughter! And I have been beating myself up about it all morning and quite honestly […]

My Boy is GROWING UP!!!

Some how when I wasn’t looking… he grew up. It seems like this past week he has matured right in front of my eyes. He is more independent and self-confident not to mention taller! At almost 5’2″ and 118lbs already (and he is only 11) my boy is growing up. This morning before we got in the car for me to drive him to school, I stopped and just looked at him. He smiled patted me on the back and said, “Okay go ahead and snap my picture. I know you want to!” LOL! I am so proud of him…but you know what… look at this face, I think he is even more proud of himself! Here is to a great 2nd week of school! […]

It’s My Birthday TODAY and this is what I plan on wishing for when I blow out the candles…

I could wish for this… or I could wish to go here… Or at least like I was there by eating this… then I could wish that even if I ate all that I still was able to do this… But even though I would love to not have to worry about money, to travel to Italy, to dine and wine like there is no tomorrow and to be THIN… That is not what I will be wishing for when I blow out all 43 of my candles on my homemade cake that my baby girl loving made following the recipe in her cake Boss Cook Book she got for her birthday. No what I will wish for has to do with this…To see that […]

And the WINNER of the Social Thinking Game for Teen Aspies is…

We have a winner for the Should I or Shouldn’t I Perspective Taking  Game from the great folks at Social Thinking ! I wish I could give you ALL a copy but I only had one to giveaway. Random.org chose that person to be: Theresa!!! Who left the following comment: I have an amazing young man entering middle school too! He just happens to have aspergers too. Please sign me up for the giveaway! Congrats Theresa. I will be emailing you today asking you to please send me your mailing address! Thanks to everyone else who entered. The more people who respond to these types of contest the more often great companies like Social Thinking will offer to have me do giveaways to you all! […]

Back to School CHEERS AND TEARS

So by the title of this post you are probably making guesses as to who is shedding the tears and who is screaming the cheers. Well believe it or not they are both ME!!! Yup folks, the same woman who put a countdown clock on her page (Just look over to the top right and you will see it there) to remind her of the beloved day that school starts back… yup the same woman who is longing for the quiet, for the structure and time to actually get her writing and work done. Yes folks now that the time is quickly approaching I am sad! I am also scared out of mind. I am more nervous for Jay to start middle school then he […]