A TREE Style of Parenting?

An article appeared in my Facebook feed the other morning about a new popular style of parenting which is now being known as Submarine parenting. What I want to know is when did parenting become a battle and referred to in military items and terms…Helicopter, authoritarian and now submarine? I don’t know about you, but personally I do not want to battle my kids; I want to nurture them. Parenting is hard enough without putting these ideas of US against THEM into everyone’s heads. Especially our kids heads. I want them to feel like I am with them… not against them. This whole idea about referring to our parenting in styles is new to me. I always have thought as parenting as a type not a style. In  my The […]

My 10 and a half Principles to Leading a Happy and Successful Life!

I’m a jumper! No not a jump out of airplanes, off bridges or on a trampoline kind of gal; more of a I have so much passion about something I jump in full throttle and sometimes don’t realize the water is full of sharks until I am already in!This past week I JUMPED… and for a bit the water was great and then… cue JAWS music! And so yet again another life lesson was learned.I decided I really needed to write these down as a reminder to myself, my kids and well… maybe just maybe they will help you! So without further ado, I give you ten and a half (cause the last one is more of a mantra) principles I have learned (and hopefully […]

The More I Learn the Less I Know; and that’s ok!

The older I get, the more experienced, learned, aged to perfection whatever you want to call it… the more aware I become of just how little I really know. It is humbling really. Seriously I write, I speak to folks all over the place, I think I have it all figured out and then wham, bam, slam…I realize I don’t know as much as I think I do. And you know what… that’s okay. It is more than okay because it keeps me moving forward, searching, asking my own questions whose answers once found I can come here and share with you. It is one of those answers I am excited to share with you today. And it came directly out of an experts mouth… […]

Free Chapter of my New book The Don’t Freak Out Guide to Parenting Kids with Asperger’s Syndrome

There is a very good reason why I have not blogged consistently lately. I have been busy writing my book! I am so happy with the way it is coming out and cannot wait for it to be done, edited and finally released. As of now we are thinking that release should be around August 2013. I have shared the introduction and first chapter with some folks already and here is what one said… I loved it! I’ll admit the introduction alone made me cry. Sometimes just knowing someone out there totally gets our situation is just awesome. And I love the tip about thinking how you react. For me physically i get this metal taste in my mouth and I know I’m about to […]

The Lean Mean Rice Eating Clean Machine or… How the BISSELL Perfect Sweep Turbo saved my dog from having to join Weight Watchers

Every week I get at least one email asking if I would like to review a product or book. Most of the time I decline politely. My thinking is that if the product is not really something you all would or could perhaps benefit from learning about, why bother. I was about to do my standard “Thank You But No Thank You” reply to the request to try out BISSELL’s Perfect Sweep Turbo but then I saw how it is supposed to be good for picking up dog hair and that it is QUIET. QUIET… do you see why this caught my attention? Let me explain. Grace has asthma and allergies. We just found out that one of the things she is allergic to is […]

Why the phrase “PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT” is now banned in our house!

I don’t know why it has taken me so long to figure this out, idioms have always been something that have given my boy trouble in the past. When he was little I once found him sitting in the closet crying because he thought he had really injured me because I told him “He cracked me up”.  So why then, why did it never don on me that using the stupid phrase Practice makes perfect would mean so much more to my boy than to others? This stupid cliché that has some how become the parent go to has created havoc in my boy. Your child will come to you saying they don’t want to play the piano because they keep making mistakes and what […]

What I was Going To Tell YOU…

It has been so long since I have posted and so many things have been going on that I am almost too overwhelmed to do this. I guess this is my editors note to you all. My warning so to speak that this post will be filled with lots of run on sentences and will skip around and will most likely be very long. So pour a cup of coffee and sit down and stay with me here if you dare. Glad to see that I did not scare some of you away! LOL Anyway I was already to start telling you about meeting with Jay’s principle and how awesome he is and how I left the room almost dancing but didn’t dare because well […]

Jennifer Livingston I APPLAUD YOU and your words to our children:”Do not let your self-worth be defined by bullies…”

It is October and most of you know that it is Breast Cancer Awareness month. I have my pink ribbon and I wear it proudly. But there is another campaign that happens this month that gets much less attention. October is Anti Bullying Month! For those of you are so busy just trying to get through the day and may not have had a chance to have seen this video of anchor woman Jennifer Livingston who graciously yet very effectively takes a stand against BULLIES… before I go any further with this post…. please take a look! I will wait cause well… it is that important that you watch it! Go on… I promise you it is worth it! As a woman who well is […]

My head hurts from beating myself up over the way I handled a situation…

I am my own worst critic. I judge myself the harshest. This is what I tell myself… but I am thinking that might not be true. I may be my daughter’s worst critic and judge her the harshest and I am so ashamed to admit this. There was an incident this morning. A fashion crisis that was so stupid and over the top and well I did not do anything to help the situation. I escalated it with I TOLD YOU SOs and should have’s and shouldn’t halves. I raised my voice and spoke too sternly. I cared too much about what other people would think instead of my own daughter! And I have been beating myself up about it all morning and quite honestly […]

Boxers vs Briefs

  I happened to pass by my boy’s room while he was getting dressed this morning and noticed that he was wearing boxer briefs instead of his usual tighty whities. So of course I asked him about it. His response was, “MOM… for now on I will wear boxer briefs on A days (which is the day he has PE) and my regular comfy tighty whities on B days.” He must have noticed my puzzled look because he sighed and continued on saying, “Mom I happened to notice that the other boys were wearing boxers and well… you know!” Okay folks there are just too many things about this that are awesome but I cannot go into them right now because I need to run […]