Do You Swear to Tell the Truth, the Whole Truth and Nothing but the Truth…


It is a good thing that mothers are not asked to swear in on a stack of bibles when their child is born. If so… well we would all go to jail because like it or not we do commit perjury with our kids. Santa, Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny and now my latest offense… the Desk Fairy, a.k.a. Deskalina.

Grace decided to clean her room yesterday after reading a Junie B. Jones book. Junie, a normally messy kid, cleans her desk at school so that Deskalina will visit her. Gracie came running down after dinner so excited because she was sure Deskalina would visit her because as she put it, “I cleaned it all by myself mama without you even nagging!” How could Deskalina not come after that?

This morning she had pure joy on her face as she raced downstairs with her Clean Desk Award and a special quarter that Deskalina had left her. How animated she was throughout breakfast. The conversation was just as lively as her and Jay talked about how after school today they needed to finish their Leprechaun Trap. “We are going to catch him this year Grace, and then he will lead us to the pot of gold!” said Jay innocently.

As I listened to my kids it got me thinking. I spend so much time teaching my children to be honest, about how important telling the truth is. Am I doing a disservice to them by letting them believe? Is wanting to create memories for them and letting them believe the right thing to do? Especially for Jay, who like many Asperger kids is so honest. Will he be upset when he realizes that we have not told him the truth?

I don’t want to tell either of them. I want them to continue to buy into this as long as possible. But am I doing this for them, or for myself? I am not really sure about the answer to that one. What I am sure is that I have milk to turn green, tricks to play and a letter to write backwards that a certain Leprechaun will leave tonight. And you know what… that is fine with me because after all, I never swore on any bibles to do differently.

6 thoughts on “Do You Swear to Tell the Truth, the Whole Truth and Nothing but the Truth…

  1. I wouldn’t worry about it so much. When they get older and able to understand the “magic” of it all, they will understand. They won’t think of it as a lie. They will understand that they have a tradition to pass down to their own kids. Imagine what fun they will have reliving all the excitement you have provided during their childhood. Imagine the smiles they will have as they recall all the magic in the imagination and the creativity in their lives. It’s because of all of this that they are so animated & so dramatic. These are things that you have given them. These are things that they will look back and remember you with love & a smile in their heart.

    What colorful lives our children live. I don’t even want to imagine what it would be like if we simply let them live a grey childhood.

  2. I remember how my oldest a very bright “scientist” figured out how Santa CAN deliver all the presents in one night… She was in 5th grade all her friends were non believers until she showed them the secret! “You see” she explained to the doubters, “the north pole is here” pointing to the top of the globe. “All the time zones meet in the north pole. As long as he returns to the north pole before he enters the next time zone it’s as if no time passed.” It made sense to them, allowed them to continue to have a glimmer of hope, and gave me a real clue of what I was in for! Gotta love kids and their logic… Still makes sense to me!

  3. I had a very similar conversation with a friend of mine around Christmas time. She is on the religious side of things. She said she has read that kids who are raised with a good deal of fantasy in their lives are more likely to believe in religion and the teachings because they have a greater sense of believing what they cannot see. So, there is another perspective of the benefit of fantasy.

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